The aftermath was a blur of emotions – anger, sadness, shock, and confusion. I didn't know how to process what I had just witnessed, or how to confront my parents about it. I felt torn between my loyalty to my dad and my disgust at my stepmom's actions.
If you tell your father, you become the messenger of devastation. You risk being blamed for the fallout, or being accused of trying to sabotage the marriage. "I was terrified my dad would shoot the messenger," Marcus admits. "I thought, maybe he knows? Maybe he’s fine with it? If I tell him, I ruin his life. If I don't, I’m complicit." i caught my stepmom cheating
Deciding whether to inform your father is often the most stressful part of this discovery. Perspectives vary: The aftermath was a blur of emotions –